How do you want to live your life? Do you have a clear vision? Can you write it down? Have you written it down? Should you write it down?
This is similar to other goal setting I have talked about. I don’t have a written vision statement for My life; I do have things that I desire. When evaluating My life, those in it, and what I do . . . I ask a VERY simple question: Does it (etc) bring peace and joy into My life?
Those are the things that I am currently striving for; so I intentionally seek them out. It is not always easy or possible to excise the “nonjoy”; but, I can be wary and KNOW that I need to be cautious. Some family would belong in this category! While not always the best to have part of My life . . . I also really cannot just tell them to F**K*FF either. What I can do is limit how much I allow them in, how much I allow them to impact Me, and TRY to brush off the crap they want to create/dump!
When I was President of a company I had an employee who drove Me INSANE. I mean he brought out the WORST in Me; he also owned a SMALL part of the company. The primary shareholder thought this employee was critical to the company and for the first year I was expected to suck up all this guy’s SH*T! Let’s say I wasn’t great at it; lol. The primary shareholder thought that it was a reflection of Me that I couldn’t simply suck it up; I thought it was a reflection of him that he expected Me to, that he encouraged the behavior, and that there were no repercussions.
Ultimately, I think much of My inability or lack of desire to take crap that others give has to do with My childhood (shocking, I know). I had a grandmother who was HORRIBLE. I used to describe her as the “root of all evil on the planet”. And honestly, I meant it. But, however mean and cruel (just verbal) she was; everyone in the family just accepted it and allowed her to continue. No one ever told her to stop, took her to task, or treated her miserably. As a child you have no standing and look to your elders for what is right; I never thought this was and promised Myself it would be different in My adulthood.
As a result, I REALLY standup for Myself with people who want to crap on My parade!
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